Some parent-teen arguments about video and computer games are part of 21st century America. So don't panic if you have your share of those. On the other hand, don't ignore signs of a real problem with compulsive playing. Here are some tips to make sure computer and video game playing remains a positive part of your teen's life.

• Set clear ground rules about when, where, how much, and what kind of game playing is allowed as soon as your teen starts to play games.
  
• Intervene early before things get out of hand.
  
• Limit game playing time.
  
• Have clear consequences if time limits are not observed.
  
• Enforce consequences consistently.
  
• Make sure your teen is not playing in the middle of the night.
  
• Require that homework and family chores be completed first.
  
• Do not allow teen to skip school or work obligations to play video games.
  
• Keep video and computer games out of teen's bedroom.
  
• Be firm. Consistently enforce the rules. If your teen refuses to cooperate, restrict access for a period of time.
  
• Be clear with your teen that constant arguments about game playing will result in loss of game playing privileges.
  
• If nothing else works, go cold turkey. Get rid of the games.
  
• Encourage alternative activities.
  
• Help from a professional may be needed.